Right now is one full yr since I final set foot in a enterprise, almost 9 months since I final posted right here on the weblog, and just a little greater than two years since Work Elective was printed. Since I final posted right here, I wrote my subsequent e book (official title WALLET ACTIVISM: The way to Use Each Greenback You Spend, Earn, and Save as a Power for Good – tons extra data coming quickly), I misplaced an uncle and we misplaced a canine (we miss you, Oly), we obtained a brand new canine (that’s Milo beneath), I realized easy methods to reduce Mark’s hair, and I dove headfirst into establishing a backyard (I’ll additionally discuss extra about that quickly). In Work Elective, I discuss in regards to the idea of a “profession intermission,” and although I didn’t intend it, I unintentionally took a profession intermission from writing right here at Our Subsequent Life.
The extra time passes because the final submit, the extra it feels just like the factor I say first have to be essential. And for many of the final yr, I haven’t felt like I had something essential to say that I hadn’t already mentioned in my final two posts (right here and right here), or wasn’t placing into the brand new e book. Most of all, I didn’t need to discuss in regards to the excessive privilege of early retirement at a time of file unemployment, a large progress in inequality, and abject hardship skilled by so many. I nonetheless don’t.
However because the world is slowly starting to creep again towards regular, as vaccinations decide up steam, we’re all going to have the expertise of returning to one thing from which we’ve been away some time. That’s common. And it’s one thing I can communicate to.
Although we’re nonetheless very a lot isolating right here in Tahoe (if I ever meet a genie who grants me three needs, one will certainly be for a functioning immune system), that is the worth I’ve discovered so removed from taking a break from each the world and the weblog.
My 2021 look: blue hair, double masks
Extra Appreciation for the Collective
I’ve by no means been extra grateful for having a yard than I’ve been within the final yr. I’ve by no means been extra grateful for grocery supply, for the oldsters keen to threat their well being so we don’t should threat ours. (In the event you use supply, please tip as extravagantly as you possibly can.) However there’s one factor I’m particularly grateful for.
The final yr has been a mire of politicized discussions, with masks and public well being measures getting twisted right into a political assertion quite than frequent sense, a lot in order that it’s straightforward to concentrate on all of the issues not taking place, all of the issues folks you don’t agree with are doing. That’s legitimate. However it distracts us from the larger and way more essential level:
For the higher a part of a yr, virtually the complete planet has dedicated a large act of collective love.
Folks have stayed dwelling. Folks have distanced. Folks have masked up. Not everybody, however many of the people doing the appropriate factor are those you by no means see.
That’s superb.
And science delivered us a number of wonderful vaccines in beneath a yr, one thing that’s by no means been executed. Although there’s loads of unhealthy information to go round, this yr has truly executed loads to revive my religion in humanity, or at the least components of it. The collective motion and the vaccine improvement pace have made me consider that we may truly handle the local weather emergency if all of us simply begin taking it as significantly as we should always.
Not that it’s all rainbows and lollipops. I’ll most likely always remember being yelled at by some folks on Instagram once I posted masked selfies in March and April of 2020, again when the general public well being messaging was mealy mouthed, and earlier than masks mandates have been in place. I’ll actually always remember the tales I’ve heard and video I’ve seen of individuals refusing to put on masks and, worse, demanding that others take away theirs. (Proclaiming “Freedom!” however then anticipating others to bend to your will looks like it’s lacking the purpose totally.) I’ll always remember {that a} massive chunk of the nation believes the lie that the election was stolen, and that a few of them led an rebel in opposition to the Capitol.
We will and must be offended. We will and must be unhappy. As of proper now, we’ve misplaced greater than half 1,000,000 Individuals to the pandemic, sufficient to fill my dwelling city of Inexperienced Bay 5 occasions over. That loss is actual, and we haven’t totally reckoned with it.
However we shouldn’t let the entire unhealthy stuff make us miss the large act of collective love that occurred and remains to be taking place. Billions of us have executed our greatest to guard each other, and that’s actual, too.
A good friend despatched me this, calling me a trailblazer for rocking masks at Coachella earlier than all of this
Clearer Perspective on What’s Essential
The pandemic lockdown began days earlier than Mark and I have been alleged to fly to Mexico Metropolis for per week to see Tame Impala and MGMT play on the Foro Sol. I used to be already packed when lockdown began, and the reality is that I’m nonetheless packed. There was by no means a motive to unpack, as a result of we haven’t but had wherever else to go. Because it turned clear that this was a long-term factor, we watched our different journey plans fall, too, and the misplaced journey was the factor I centered on most of all.
“I can’t wait to journey once more,” I’d say, time and again. Mark and I might discuss the place we need to go first when issues open again up, the place we’d go if we are able to journey by winter, or by summer season, or by the subsequent winter. However that rapidly modified, too.
“I can’t wait till I can grocery store for myself,” I’d say, the goalpost shifting nearer. “I can’t wait till I can hang around at Tahoe with out worrying about crowds, or trip a chairlift with out worry. I can’t wait till I can do regular stuff.”
However now, I don’t even concentrate on these issues. “I can’t wait till I can return to bodily remedy. I can’t wait till we are able to hang around with all of our mates. I can’t wait till I can hug my dad.” That’s it. That’s my focus.
After all I’d like to journey once more. After all I’m excited to buy myself as a substitute of getting to be okay with all of the single-use grocery baggage and extra packaging that arrive now that I can’t do something about. I’d be mendacity if I mentioned I gained’t be stoked at any time when Coachella comes again. However I don’t want any of these issues. The issues I can’t look ahead to are easy: well being, mates, household.
All of our lives are difficult. Most of us are overscheduled and under-rested. And once we’re shifting rapidly from one factor to the subsequent, it’s straightforward to lose sight of the massive image. It’s straightforward to confuse needs and wishes. And desires are nice. Individuals who write about cash and let you know to chop out all of the needs are robots, not precise people who expertise pleasure. (That’s clearly hyperbole, however that recommendation is insensitive at finest, merciless at worst.)
I do sit up for a time once I can concentrate on the needs once more. However I’ve realized what truly issues most.
Clearer Perspective on What’s Price Leaving Behind
I don’t want to discuss “silver linings.” There’s no upside to half 1,000,000 lifeless Individuals and a couple of.5 million deaths worldwide. It’s a tragedy, interval. None of what I’m speaking about here’s a silver lining or an upside or a “however at the least…”. We owe it to these we’ve misplaced and to those that will carry the trauma of this expertise with us for a very long time to not put that poisonous positivity on this expertise. The one factor to speak about is what we’ve realized from it.
Simply as I’ve realized what my true wants are, I’ve realized a ton in regards to the issues that I believed have been essential to me, however aren’t. So whereas the final yr has been stripped all the way down to the necessities out of necessity, there are such a lot of issues that gained’t come again as soon as that necessity is gone, and that’s a very good factor.
I’ve realized to care loads much less in regards to the approval of others, and I don’t assume that’ll ever return. For instance, I’ve wished to masks up whereas touring for years, like folks have routinely executed in Asia ever because the SARS pandemic, however I didn’t need to stand out. I’m executed caring about that. Similar for shaking fingers. I by no means favored doing it, however wished to be well mannered. (Keep in mind: no purposeful immune system over right here.) Any longer (or quickly anyway), it’s hugs or nothing. I’m by no means once more going to put on uncomfortable pants or footwear, or fear if my hair coloration is just too vivid for no matter I’m doing, or tone down what I actually need to say as a result of I’m afraid of seeming too opinionated. (In the event you discover a distinction between this submit and my older ones, it’s as a result of I’m executed pretending that cash is apolitical.)
Once I used to show yoga, I’d typically parrot again the ever present language of “letting go of what not serves you.” The phrase all the time felt off to me, however I couldn’t clarify why. Now I can. It’s the thought of serving you. The self-centeredness of it. The concept issues ought to serve you, quite than you serving them, or contemplating what finest serves all of us. And it’s the final half that I’ve realized probably the most about this yr. Not eliminating the issues that don’t serve me, however quite the issues that don’t serve anybody. That’s what we must be abandoning most of all.
What’s Subsequent
I don’t know but once I’ll be capable of get vaccinated, or whether or not California considers me “excessive threat sufficient” to be within the subsequent group. We’ve even much less concept about when Mark is perhaps eligible as a wholesome particular person in his 40s. The longer term remains to be an amazing clean. I do know that I’ll be planting a backyard once more this summer season, and that’s about as a lot certainty as I’ve about something proper now.
Likewise, I don’t know the way usually I’ll be posting right here now that the e book is finished, however I do know that I’m again. There’s loads I need to say, it’s nonetheless cash associated, some will apply to early retirement, and a few gained’t. This yr has taught me loads about what’s truly essential, and that additionally means what’s value combating for.
Persons are value combating for. The planet is value combating for.
And we as people have extra energy than we predict to interact in that combat.
If that sounds good to you, then stick round. We’ll discuss extra quickly.
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