Shopping for A Home And Getting Engaged!

No bury­ing the lede on this one — my fiancé and I are purchase­ing a home! That’s proper, we bought engaged, too! 

Once I say that Novem­ber 2023 was one of the over­whelm­ing­ly pos­i­tive and busy months of my life, I am not exag­ger­at­ing within the slightest. 

I can’t write two sep­a­fee posts on these occasions and drag it out like a “good” weblog­ger would prob­a­bly do as a result of they’re so inter­twined with every oth­er that I have to inform each sto­ries at as soon as. 

The Origins

My fiancé (nonetheless can­not wrap my head round that phrase!) and I met in August 2022 and begin­ed offi­cial­ly dat­ing in Sep­tem­ber 2022. We went to Gulf Shores with most of his fam­i­ly after Christ­mas 2022, went on an amaz­ing all-inclu­sive vaca­tion to Mex­i­co in Feb­ru­ary 2023, expe­ri­enced EconoMe togeth­er in March 2023, took a journey to Nashville for Spring Break in April 2023, had our lives modified on the Tay­lor Swift Eras Tour present in Kansas Metropolis July 2023, vis­it­ed buddies in Lengthy­mont CO, cel­e­brat­ed our first anniver­sary, and vis­it­ed buddies within the Automotive­oli­nas in Sep­tem­ber 2023. 

Some­the place alongside the best way, we fell mad­ly, deeply, and ridicu­lous­ly in love. 

Now, he’s been mar­ried earlier than and long-time learn­ers will know I’ve not been mar­ried earlier than. Because the 12 months went on, we dis­stubborn what we would like­ed our rela­tion­ship to seem like sooner or later and our indi­vid­ual stances on mar­riage. I have some deep-seat­ed rela­tion­ship anx­i­ety and really feel {that a} ring and piece of paper from the state makes a psy­cho­log­i­cal dif­fer­ence. He had his personal hangups round mar­riage (which in respect to him I gained’t be placing right here on the inter­internet, though I don’t have any such qualms in terms of my inside psy­che, so that you’re wel­come, I guess?), so we took our time to actual­ly hear what the oth­er was say­ing and what can be the very best strategy for each of us. 

“Took your time? Gwen, you guys dat­ed for simply over a 12 months and haven’t even recognized every oth­er for 2 years but! That’s so quick!!” 

Lengthy sto­ry brief, we’re conscious. The outdated trope of “when you understand, you understand” is cer­tain­ly true right here. At 33 and 41, we now have a a lot wager­ter underneath­stand­ing of who we’re, what we would like in a half­ner, and what we have to have a wholesome rela­tion­ship than if we had been say, in our ear­ly 20s. 

A Realization

Some­time in late September/early Octo­ber, I actual­ized I want­ed to let my land­lord know if I was going to resume my lease when it was up on the finish of Jan­u­ary. My lease states I want to present 60 days’ discover if I’m going to maneuver out so she has time to get it prepared and checklist it earlier than my lease is up. So, this was the trig­ger for a few talks on what we would like­ed to do hous­ing-wise for 2024. Cur­lease­ly, we’ve been cut up­ting our time between his place and my place that are 30 min­utes away from every oth­er. We did­n’t par­tic­u­lar­ly need to do this for anoth­er 12 months, because it required us to fundamental­tain 2 home­holds and pay for dupli­cates of basi­cal­ly every part.

His child­do is cur­lease­ly in mid­dle college, so we decid­ed it was finest if I moved to them. I can’t match my stuff of their aside­ment, and there aren’t many 3‑bed room leases on the town. That left both lease­ing or purchase­ing a home. Hire­ing a home in his city is EXPENSIVE as the varsity dis­trict is actual­ly good, in order that left purchase­ing a home. 

Shopping for a Home

What a time to purchase a home. Loopy how only a few years makes such a dif­fer­ence between purchase­ing a home in 2021 and now. Inter­est charges have elevated from 3% then to within the 7% vary now, which suggests my pur­chas­ing pow­er has decreased. 

After we decid­ed purchase­ing was the best way to go, we begin­ed preserve­ing an eye fixed on Zil­low for prop­er­ties to indicate up. I’m not even jok­ing after I say inven­to­ry is low. We wait­ed 10 WHOLE DAYS for one prop­er­ty to be checklist­ed, and it was­n’t even one which match our standards. 

We wish­ed a home that had 3 mattress­rooms, an ensuite pri­ma­ry bathtub­room, a full bathtub­room for his child­do, and like­ably a half bathtub for visitor utilization. We additionally need­ed stroll­a­ble to the cen­ter of city, a 2 automotive hooked up storage, some­the place to work on initiatives, and ease of entry to the online­work of mul­ti-use trails that criss­cross city. We attend­ed a few open hous­es, bought a actual­tor, bought preap­proved, seen a few hous­es the day they got here on the mar­ket, and last­ly discovered one we preferred sufficient to place a proposal on. It was a tremendous cute home constructed within the Fifties with a indifferent 2‑automotive storage and workshop. 

Once we bought dwelling from the present­ing, my fiancé was really feel­ing a lot of anx­i­ety on my behalf that I was will­ing to purchase a home with a man I was­n’t mar­ried to (once more). Though each­factor turned out effective in the long run! He knew I was get­ting some feed­again from fam­i­ly and buddies on that, so he thought he would possibly head that off and make this time dif­fer­ent by proposing. 

It was per­fec­tion. In fact, I begin­ed cry­ing and imme­di­ate­ly mentioned sure! 

That was Novem­ber 1^st! The checklist­ing agent pulled some shady behav­iors (that even made our tremendous love­ly and gained­der­ful actual­tor pissed off) so we finish­ed up hav­ing the sec­ondary supply on that home. 

what you get whenever you fin­ish in sec­ond place on a home? Not a rattling factor. However heyyyy we did­n’t care, we had been rid­ing the excessive of get­ting engaged! 

The Deets

Lengthy sto­ry some­what brief­er, 2 weeks lat­er a home got here on the mar­ket that checked all our field­es. We went to see it, liked it imme­di­ate­ly, put a proposal in, and had it settle for­ed the following day! The checklist value was $310k however we would like­ed the promote­ers to simply accept our supply as a substitute of hav­ing to battle oth­ers after the upcom­ing open home. Thus, we supplied $322,500, 1% earnest mon­ey, and no repairs underneath $10,000. The appraisal got here again at $324k. The inspec­tion discovered noth­ing flawed past including a few extra smoke detec­tors, mit­i­gat­ing some radon within the base­ment, and one thresh­outdated that must be changed. 

The home is 2 lev­els laid out subsequent to every oth­er for a complete of 4 flooring. I am delib­er­ate­ly keep away from­ing utilizing the phrase “split-lev­el” as I don’t like split-lev­el hous­es and it’s not actual­ly a split-lev­el. That model sug­gests an entry the place you imme­di­ate­ly should go up or down, the place­as our home doesn’t have that. It does, how­ev­er, have 3 mattress­rooms, an ensuite on the pri­ma­ry bathtub­room, a full bathtub for the child­do, a half bathtub for company, an hooked up two-car storage, an unfin­ished base­ment per­fect for my stained glass work and a work­store for him, a actual­ly amaz­ing ginor­mous gaze­bo within the again­yard, and it’s subsequent door to the bike path. 

It was orig­i­nal­ly in-built 1992 and has­n’t been updat­ed a lot since then, so we now have some minor cos­met­ic updates to do earlier than we transfer in Could 2024. That’s when our leas­es are up, after I labored with my land­lord to have mine prolong­ed. (Which was mutu­al­ly ben­e­fi­cial since she will be able to get excessive­er rents in Could and extra peo­ple are look­ing then versus January.)

We closed on the home within the mid­dle of Decem­ber and are so excit­ed to have the ability to dwell collectively!

So, to recap.…

In two weeks, I bought engaged, ran a undertaking at work solo for the primary time, and acquired a home. Like I mentioned on the start­ning, over­whelm­ing and amaz­ing in one of the best ways pos­si­ble! Keep tuned for extra on get­ting engaged and the wed­ding plan­ning course of!

Love,

As all the time, thanks for learn­ing! Has any­factor you need to cel­e­brate hap­pened late­ly? Pontificate within the com­ments beneath! 

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